This morning Kathe said Danny is lucky he was born a man. Danny said everything balances out. I said it didn’t really balance out for slaves. Then we moved into irony. Danny said, it’s a lot harder than you think to be a white male. We made a list of the hardships: getting blamed for everything; having to take responsibility; too many jobs and too much money; always being asked for support and advice.

We dance around the uncomfortable, unspoken truth. Through no fault of your own, you are born a woman, or a person with no legs, or a person of color. In that moment, the odds are set. You get most entitlements for no reason, except the accident of your birth.